Our Mission

Joshua Harris, author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye, is taking submissions from people who were affected by his book and his teachings on Christian “sexual purity.” However, in taking these submissions, he is asking for several things:

  • for the stories to be kept under 750 words
  • permission to share the stories anonymously online
  • or volunteers to share their stories in a video format

While we think that actually taking the time to listen is a good start for Harris, many of us are deeply uncomfortable with his chosen format. By giving Harris permission to share these stories, they are being licensed to him for use in whatever way he sees fit—in whole in or in part, censored or uncensored, in service of whatever conclusions he comes to about the impact of his work.

But the reality is that the impact of his work is not his to decide.

This week, we’re inviting you to share your stories—uncut and uncensored. We want to curate these stories in the hopes of preventing more damage from being done and to provide an alternative narrative to the rigid and narrow thinking that IKDG and Harris’ other work espouses. Here’s how you can participate:

  • Write your story on your own blog and link up with us anytime. We’ll also run posts on different topics relating to I Kissed Dating Goodbye and purity culture on lifeafterikdg.com. The link-up form is at the bottom of this page, and if you need help getting started, here are some writing prompts.
  • If micro-blogging is more your speed, we created the #IKDGstories tag on Twitter.
  • If you’re uncomfortable using your personal information to share your story, you can submit an anonymous story at ikdgstories.tumblr.com. All submissions will be published completely anonymously and unedited (except where grammatically necessary).
  • If you’re willing to tell your story and you don’t have your own blog, but you don’t need to be anonymous, you can also submit through ikdgstories.tumblr.com
  • We’re especially interested in publishing stories from those who are marginalized. If you’re LGBT+ or a person of color, you can submit an article directly to IKDGstories@gmail.com to be considered for a feature on LifeAfterIKDG.com.

We hope to help keep the power of the stories in the hands of those they belong to. We want to shed light, amplify, and make space. It is our hope that these stories will not only give comfort to those who have felt like they are alone, but will also spur Joshua Harris on to further and more humble reflection on his contributions to purity culture—reflection that does not come at the cost of those most harmed by his teachings. We hope you’ll join us!

Add a link to your own #IKDGstories blog post, podcast, or video. Contributors retain all rights to their content and may republish as they wish. The Life After I Kissed Dating Goodbye team makes no ownership claims on submissions. Include your name in the “Link Title” field to have it appear in the blog list.